Saturday, April 23, 2011

Why Does Love Drive People Crazy?

If you talk to two persons - one who has never felt love, and other who is deeply in love, you will find them talking in a very different way. If you ask the person who has never loved about what he/she felt about the other's talk, the answer will be- crazy!

Is it true? Does love drive one to madness? It may not be madness as understood by psychiatrists, but a madness of emotions. Am I right? Why does love do that? To understand this, we have to explore more about love or romance. Is it friendship? Is it physical attraction/ is it liking for each other? What is love and what is this relationship all about? Love combines all these and goes much beyond in bonding. Lovers are bonded to each other emotionally and totally. A lover can not imagine of life without his/her beloved. A lover will suffer like a fish suffers without water , if he/she is separated from the beloved. Love becomes the whole life. Love gives life. Love becomes the reason of life. Life begins and ends with love. That is love. And that's why people call love mad!

How and why a lover feels like this for beloved is beyond any logical explanation. There is no arithmetic sum that can decide this. It is all emotional. And the emotions are so overwhelming that they engulf the whole personality. Why does a flower look lovely to all of us? Why are we attracted by the sight of a beautiful sunset? Why do we love to walk on the beach? Do we know? Can we answer these questions? Our only answer may be that - I feel happy doing it. A lover feels happy, rather so happy in love that it can not be compared with any other happiness. One forgets one's pains, one's pleasures and one's existence when in love.

Fall in love and feel the madness. You will get a clue to why lovers are called mad.

Explaining Love in Words

Is it possible to love someone and deliberately lie to them? Love is...bearing all things. That means putting up with each other's faults. No one is perfect. Love is...believing all things. It doesn't mean we have doubt about someone. We should be able to take what someone says at face value.

It is trust. Love is...hopeful in all things. It's knowing that everything will work out for the best.

Love is...enduring. That means it puts up with the little things that drive us crazy. Love is...never failing.

Love is real when it can stand up to all these things. It looks for the best in others and brings these things out.

True love can stand the test of time. Being with someone for a long period of time allows you to go through different emotions and periods with that person. If your heart has the strength to weather through these different experiences with your lover, then both you and the relationship will grow stronger.

Love doesn't mean that your lover has the responsibility to keep you happy and vice versa.

The only person who has the responsibility to make you happy is yourself. While you and your lover can make each other "happier", you shouldn't be solely dependent on each other for happiness.

The couples who end up being happy together are made up of individuals who were happy to begin with. Keeping yourself happy is a hard enough responsibility, don't make it harder for yourself by letting another person's happiness be your responsibility too.

Love is sublime. Love gives power. Love gives determination. In love, many lovers do what they could never dream of.

Empires have been sacrificed for love. Battles have been fought for love. Love has ruled mankind since ages. Those who experience love are truly lucky. Real love is supportive. Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more.

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel.

Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ... Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown "Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

"To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman

"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous "Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston "Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

First and foremost focus on yourself. Your dreams, your goals, your truth. Somebody who really loves you will love you even more if you are being your true self. Someone who cannot love you when you follow your excitement is not worth being loved by you! If your husband is angry with you because you take time to achieve your goals, then he is not supportive. If yourwife is jealous because you have success and she doesn’t, then that is her problem. Don’t lose yourself, and your love will last. Focus on the reason why YOU are here on earth, make your mission the first priority in your life, and you will be loved for WHO you are.

This is real love. Real love is supportive. Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more. What you are able to give to yourself, you will get back thousandfold from the outside world. If you are already in the energy of love, by simply loving yourselfFeature Articles, then you will attract love from outside into your life. Make love last by loving yourself first. Love Love Love...